How do we continue Birthing our Creations without Stepping on Toes! πΉβ€οΈβπ₯π£ππΌ
How do we continue Birthing our Creations without Stepping on Toes! πΉβ€οΈπ₯π£ππΌ
Here, I share with you some of my deeper personal reflections and insights, inspired by this powerful topic and conversation emerging from the women, within The Somatic Sister Circle Space (monthly embodied membership). One which I feel so many heart led women in business will resonate with.
As I watched, listened and read the gorgeous words, musings, enquiries unfolding so beautifully and courageously in the space…
Here is my response:
So much deep deep wisdom in these threads my loves! The noticing of the fear and the hesitation as it emerges! The somatic awareness as it unfolds as we observe what’s emerging around us and within the collective. The deeper self enquiries… the returning to our core values.
The deeper attunement to all of the layers that emerge during the creation, birthing, death & creation… (all over again)… process… the channel and the mother explorations… such gold in these conversations as we name the very experiences so many of us face particularly in the online world of business, wellness, spirituality… creation… sisterhood…
Gosh have I had my fair share of experiences with this… one which I won’t go into detail here today, but essentially it shook me, and invited me to return deeply to my core values and to practice embodying healthy supportive boundaries.
My invitation to ‘Soften & Trust…’
A couple of other personal experiences I’ve had was when I’d poured my absolute heart into my upcoming 3-month offering. It’s was going to be ‘The Embodied Woman’. Just as I was about to launch… I went on retreat with one of my mentors at the time. And she announced her new offering with the same name… I was devastated. I felt my offering dwindling away by the second. Convinced there wasn’t space for the both of our offerings to emerge. As I shared with her that I was actually about to share an offering also called ‘the embodied woman’… I was blown away by her response…
She looked at me with a deeply grounded, steady core and said ‘there’s clearly a need in the collective…’
That always stuck with me.
To feel her deep sense of what felt like, such trust, spaciousness, non-attachment, abundance. A sense of there’s no competition here. There’s no need for scarcity or lack. But rather abundance. An abundance of us as facilitators offering what’s so needed in the collective. Each with our own unique essence and take on how we weave it into fruition.
I later took a walk in nature and asked what her (nature’s) invitation was… and she invited me to let go of the grasp on the title needing to ‘be mine’… and to let the offering take on a life of its own. Which it did. Naturally, organically & unexpectedly in ways I couldn’t have ever strategised or mapped out.
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Another experience of this, was a good few years back…
My invitation to ‘Soften & Receive…’
I was ABSOLUTELY set on preparing to release my brand new six month journey…
THE FULL SPECTRUM WOMAN… β€οΈπ₯
I could feel her in my BONES! I had never felt more sure, more excited, more aligned, more keen, to birth anything before.
I launched a sneak preview of her on my page… through a series of posts, and captions…
This was going to be ‘my main offering’ EVERYTHING had been leading to THIS.
On the lead up to the launch…
A woman popped up on my feed.
And there she was…
The Meg O.
‘THEE…..
FULL SPECTRUM WOMAN’
She had been running her ‘Full Spectrum Woman’ mentorship for years….
And BLOODY WELL might I add!
I was absolutely DEVASTATED.
Heartbroken.
What now???
Where do I go from here???
The death of my Full Spectrum Woman Creation & Devotion, before she had even been birthed…
It floored me. I lost my mojo. I couldn’t see the vision through the devastation and the grief of letting her go.
It was time to go back to the drawing board.
The more I leaned into ‘The Meg O’s’ work… I found myself feeling deeply grateful she had come into my life. I realised witnessing her, just how much more of my own Full Spectrum Woman I was YEARNING… to embody for myself.
I therefore decided to lean in deeper, and I’ve been journeying with her inside her 12 month mentorship The Full Spectrum Woman for nearly a year now. She is absolute FIRE and supports me to meet myself in the FULL SPECTRUM of life. And the full spectrum of me. I now know, that the Full Spectrum Woman offering I was so deeply yearning to offer others, was actually meant for me.
And it felt so beautiful and self honouring to offer MYSELF that medicine and to lean in with Meg.O.
I trust now in the unfolding of my own path, and can see more clearly now where it has all been leading me to. At least until the next curveball anyway!! π€ͺ
Watch this space for 2026 my loves! Something bloody beautiful is on its way! π₯°ππ»β€οΈπ₯
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And last but not least… I recently had an experience where I felt like I stepped on someone’s toes, unintentionally.
My invitation to ‘Soften & Create Loving Space…’
Another woman essentially told me what to do/not do and how to offer/facilitate my session, as to essentially not interfere with hers.
A part of me felt misunderstood, threatened, and intimidated. And after some events that unfolded during the offering of my space, I left the situation feeling frustrated, hesitant and cautious as to not step on her toes even more than it felt like I somehow had. This was one of a number of interactions which had left me feeling uneasy, and somewhat disconnected.
In the months that followed I was also met with a comment which in my experience, felt somewhat bitter and sharp, and I left feeling judged, unsupported & belittled. This could well have been a combination of my own perceptions & beliefs, and also, perhaps the truth and reality of what was being sensed and felt.
All of which, felt like a deeper invitation for me to sit with… AND… to acknowledge the realisation that our values simply weren’t aligning.
In these moments, it left parts of me feeling saddened by the apparent disconnect, or animosity that still exists amongst us. It left me yearning in my heart for celebration and cheering of one another. Of abundant ways of relating where there is space for all of us to exist. Without having to make the other smaller or wrong or less than.
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As some of you may know, I’m a huge believer and advocate for meeting others with deep compassion. In trying to understand and appreciate the other’s point of view and the journey they have walked. And to try and approach with kindness, and non-judgment where possible, whilst also trying to hold myself lovingly accountable for when I feel ‘triggered’ and to look deeper within myself to explore that first.
And…. It’s now becoming a big part of my conscious practice, to ALSO not make myself overly responsible for everything. To not always take it all on as my own. And to notice when someone is overstepping my boundaries, or simply doesn’t align with the values that I hold close to my heart. And to return to the values I hold in my heart.
Whilst I initially tried to offer an olive branch and move closer… to repair or build some kind of a bridge. I can notice now how I feel in my body, my breath, my heart and what actually feels true and alive for me, in those moments of interaction. And I can appreciate now that not everyone is willing to meet us there. And that’s ok. Neither having to be right or wrong. Maybe there is deep medicine within each of our paths. Maybe they’re all leading to the same place…
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And so all of this makes me wonder… how we might continue to birth our creations, whilst holding it all lightly, yet whilst also giving space for our deeply raw human beautiful depth of feeling, lived experience, and nuance to be weaved throughout it all too.
To notice where I try to possess the titles, the words… the program as my own…
And to become loving curious, why that feels so important to me…
To meet and feel myself, in my breath there… and to see that part of me that so deeply wanted it to be a certain way. To ask Her what SHE is needing to be seen and felt and honoured in.
It’s interesting to me here, to feel the meaning I/we can so often attach to words…
Like I wanted so deeply for ‘The Full Spectrum Woman’ to be MY THING.
And yet, if we stripped back the words, and explored this through a sound, or our breath…
I can chuckle at the thought of me saying…
‘No… that’s MY BREATH!’
Or
‘No… I wanted that to be MY SOUND!’
Yet as soon as that sound becomes a word… in my experience, we can attach so much meaning to it.
And OF COURSE… I/we have.
Because my/our work is deeply meaningful to me/to us. It’s often deeply intimate what I choose to share, pour my heart into… and how I choose to arrive into it. And so it MAKES SENSE, why I would want to feel so seen, and known in that expression.
My question then circles back to…
How might I meet HER. The part of me that yearns to be seen & known in this season of me….
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For me, my creations have always felt DEEPLY personal to me. They draw upon my deepest, darkest, most liberated, raw, subtle, intricate, nuanced, breathed, human lived experiences.
I deeply believe that’s what connects me so deeply to my passion, my flame, my message, and what I feel resonates with others, as I share my offerings.
My offerings live through my bones.
And…. In the same breath… I’ve also been invited time and time again, to notice where I’m attaching some kind of identity and ‘worth’ to what I offer… and therefore, inevitably associating my worth with ‘what I am’, or what I portray myself to be.
Recently I was invited into another deeper initiation of this. What felt like the death of the spiritual ego. Some shadow aspects of me started to reemerge that deeply desired to feel ‘seen’. ‘Recognised’. ‘Adorned by others’.
This was something, after a lot of inner exploration, I previously felt at ease with… it felt like this need had actually dissipated. And I was no longer seeking externally anymore.
Yet beneath it all… in this season… I’d started to become very ‘comfortable’ within the identity even around that. ‘The one who doesn’t seek validation externally anymore’.
Yet of course, enter motherhood, a season of depletion, feeling under resourced, sleep deprived, and carrying A LOT, to name a few of my experiences this past year, and I started to notice old patterns resurfacing.
And so once again, I’ve been invited to meet myself and these ways of being with sooo much understanding, patience and deep DEEP compassion.
To say to these parts of me:
‘Hey… I know you…
I see you…
And gosh… does it make sense why you’re here again.
OF COURSE… You’re here again.
Why wouldn’t you be, right now, in this season whilst I’m stumbling in many ways and finding my feet again.
Gosh do I see you. And it’s ok that you’re here right now.
I’m here with you. And we’re going to find our way, I promise.
For now, know that you are loved.
I know you feel like you want to grasp on to that identity, right now. It meant so much to you, and got you so far. It shaped much of the life you know today. She’s been a steady anchor for you. So it makes sense.
Yet here, in this season, where we are raw, fresh, we’re deep in the unknown, you’ve never walked through this chapter before… and you’re meeting yourself in the ashes in many ways. So of course, you want to hold on to what you’ve known before.
As we arrive here, maybe we don’t need to grasp on to this identity so tightly this time round.
Maybe she brought us here…
And yet maybe something else is ready to emerge.
To soften.
To be related to in another way.
Maybe, in this chapter,
We don’t have to fear so much.
Because you already know who you are.
Beneath the identity we’ve created for ourselves and held on to,
Is the core of what truly fuels that flame.
The deep rooted centre of our being.
And well… from that place…
It doesn’t really matter whether our flame burns out or gets put out by someone else…
Because we know the potential that lies beneath it all…
Within the ashes…
The burning woman within us…
Meets us there.
Within our deepest fears…
She chooses to be reborn.
And so she no longer fears, the unknown.
She no longer avoids her deepest fears.
Because now she recognises them as her deeper Return.
To the source of all creation.
Here, she remembers we are all one.
And she remembers in the beauty & the strength that emerges from a thousand candles lit and dancing together. Rather than convincing herself she has to try and keep herself alight on her own in the dark.
So…. fearful micro-managey Megg… it’s ok that you’re here.
Because here, is the seat of your deepest becoming yet.
Your deepest unravelling of all you’ve ever known.
And your deepest birthing of all you were here to truly hold the flame for… beneath the words, beneath the fears, beneath the titles, beneath the accolades, beneath who you thought you had to be, beneath it all…
There you are.
There we are.
All just trying to find our way back home.’
It seems, life, business, spirituality, motherhood, relationship…
Is forever inviting me into the deep embracing of the unknown.
To surrender to the mystery of life.
Even when it doesn’t go the way I thought it would or had planned out on my excel spreadsheet!
Even… when someone else takes that name.
Or offers that same journey.
Or even when my baby arrives six weeks early.
Or when I’m on my way to a hospital birth rather than the fairy light lit water home birth I’d actually dreamt of.
Even when my relationship crumbles to nothingness and I’m left to parent alone.
Even when my relationship rebuilds and I arrive into the family I’d always yearned for…
How deeply can I arrive and meet myself there…
In THOSE moments.
Within my Deepest Fears…
Within my Deepest Desires…
Within the crumbling. Within the humbling. Within the ashes. Within the deep unknown. Within the confrontation. Within the being called out. Within the rising. Within the becoming.
How might I honour the part of me that so desperately wants to control and hold on…
And how might I trust and embrace in the unfolding of it all.
This…
Continues to be my life long enquiry, my life’s work, my deepest devotion.
And so my loves,
What if we birth that creation… and we step on someone’s toes…
What if we birth that thing… and it ‘fails’…
What if we birth that thing… and it ‘succeeds…’
What if we lose everything…
What if we receive everything we’ve always wanted…
What if life has another plan for us…
A deeper invitation…
How might we choose to meet ourselves there…
From my curious heart to yours,
Megg xxx
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So much love to you π«Ά
